Step Monstering 101

So my wife thinks that at times I come across as the Step Monster from Hell!!!!! Well she actually has never said that but she is concerned that I come across as nagging. And perhaps there is some truth to that. I tend to nag at the kids when stuff they are responsible for does not get done. I don’t do this to be a prick.as some may think. I do it because we are a family of seven and if we all do not pull our weight and do our responsibilities our home is chaotic. The chaos and the mess that results from it are what drives me crazy. Don’t get me wrong. I am far from being a clean freak. I just want some semblance of order. Perhaps it may be true that I expect more from them than I do from myself. Although I do not really believe that to be true. What I realize about being a dad is that I need to lead with a servants heart to my family. And yet in order to teach them I need to monitor and expect from them. To hold them in account. I guess I struggle with that. I struggle with knowing how to parent them well. Because my desire to parent them comes across as nagging and unkind. And I don’t want to do that to any of my kids. I have more questions than answers. God help me.